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The Wheat and the Tares: Can you see the difference?

Wheat and the Tares


Let's study nature like Christ did!

"But while men slept, his enemy came and sowed tares among the wheat, and went his way. But when the blade was sprung up, and brought forth fruit, then appeared the tares also. So the servants of the householder came and said unto him, Sir, didst not thou sow good seed in thy field? from whence then hath it tares? He said unto them, An enemy hath done this. The servants said unto him, Wilt thou then that we go and gather them up? But he said, Nay; lest while ye gather up the tares, ye root up also the wheat with them. Let both grow together until the harvest: and in the time of harvest I will say to the reapers, Gather ye together first the tares, and bind them in bundles to burn them: but gather the wheat into my barn." Matthew 13:25-30.

What is wheat?

Wheat is one of the most common grains grown throughout the world. It is also one of the oldest known crops, and can grow in a wide range of soils and climates.

What is a tare or tares?

The bearded darnel, mentioned in Matt. 13:25-30. It is the Lolium temulentum, a species of rye-grass, the seeds of which are a strong soporific poison. It bears the closest resemblance to wheat till the ear appears, and only then the difference is discovered. It grows plentifully in Syria and Palestine.

What are the characteristics of the tare(s)?

It is a deceptive plant because it appears and looks just like the wheat You cannot visually see a difference between the wheat and the tare(s) until the ear appears, then they look just like the wheat, only taller. At first glance, one might presume that the tares are actually a bigger, healthier stalk of wheat. But when you examine the tares closely you discover that they have no grain within them. They often harbor seriously poisonous fungus that can even cause death

What happens when the wheat grain is ready?

It is harvested by cutting, as with a sickle Then it is bound together Then it goes to the threshing floor where it is separated.

What happens when the tares are discovered?

They are separated by a fanning that blows away the lighter and smaller seeds of the tares, and after threshing, all seeds are shaken in a sieve. Thus any darnel seeds still remaining will usually pass through and leave the larger wheat behind.

What is wrong with allowing a tare to remain that has beared its fruit in the wheat?

The inner coats of these seeds often harbor seriously poisonous fungus growths that, if eaten by humans or animals, will cause dizziness and vomiting and sometimes even death.

What is the understanding of the wheat and the tares?

"Christ's servants are grieved as they see true and false believers mingled in the church. They long to do something to cleanse the church. Like the servants of the householder, they are ready to uproot the tares. But Christ says to them, "Nay; lest while ye gather up the tares, ye root up also the wheat with them. Let both grow together until the harvest. "Christ has plainly taught that those who persist in open sin must be separated from the church, but He has not committed to us the work of judging character and motive. He knows our nature too well to entrust this work to us. Should we try to uproot from the church those whom we suppose to be spurious Christians, we should be sure to make mistakes. Often we regard as hopeless subjects the very ones whom Christ is drawing to Himself. Were we to deal with these souls according to our imperfect judgment, it would perhaps extinguish their last hope. Many who think themselves Christians will at last be found wanting. Many will be in heaven who their neighbors supposed would never enter there. Man judges from appearance, but God judges the heart. The tares and the wheat are to grow together until the harvest; and the harvest is the end of probationary time. Christ Object Lessons, p. 71.2-71.3.

  1. We are not to judge a persons character and motive.


This work was not given to us. The wheat and the tares are not easily distinguished by our eyes.

How come?

Often the tare appears stronger. We do not know the heart, only God does! We are plainly taught by Christ that those that persist in open sin must be separated from the church.

Then what is the tare?

The tare is the product which has not shown its true fruits yet. The real nature of the tare is hidden from our eyes because only God knows the heart.

  1. 'Shall not God search this out? for he knoweth the secrets of the heart. " Psalm 14:25.

The tare is someone that we "think" that may be doing wrong because we see and question their character and motives. But we are not quite sure but suspect them to be sinning. But at the time when the tare opens up to reveal its true fruit, then we know whether they are bearing fruits of righteousness (that is to say, right doing) or fruits of the enemy.

What are we to with the open sins or the sinner(s) in the church?

At that time when the tare reveals its true fruit, then we know whether they are bearing fruits of righteousness (that is to say, right doing of Christ Jesus) or fruits of the enemy. It is at this time we are instructed by the Lord to move forward to lovingly counsel with the wrong doer.

What happens if the ripen tare does not wish to heed the counsel of God?

They will have to be removed if they do not choose repent.

What will happen if we leave the wrong doer in the church?

They will be mingled with the good and their seeds of wrong doings will be planted among the harvest. If we choose to disobey the Lord's commands and refuse to address the open sin, the harvest may be damaged and the good may all be corrupted by the wrongs.


True and false believers are mingled together in the church. Sometimes the tare looks strong and looks the healthiest too. And there are members who may appear that they are not sincere in faith, but that would be from there appearances based on their characters and motives and not principles of the church.

A character flaw is an imperfection, such as a small scar, thick accent, dyslexia, blindness, certain habits, etc. These things are part of our human packaging that often stay with us through out our lives. A motive is something that causes a person to act, such as an incentive. Motive also causes people to do something because they are seeking a certain result or outcome.

Within the church some members may be ready to give up or rid themselves of certain members because of their character and because how certain motives are perceived by themselves. But the these members have not committed an open sin, they are simply not looking perfect to some. And we are not to uproot another based on their character or motives. But when a tare reveals itself, it is by committing an open sin which is to say that they are outwardly going against the doctrines. It is at this time that they are no longer a tare but now an open sinner. An open sin means to commit an act that is contrary to the doctrines which have been established before a member(s) of the church. A tare is a false grain that looks like the wheat grain, while it is a tare its true nature of what it is - is hidden.

When there is an open sin, this must be addressed and if that member of the church is unyielding to God's tender love and directions, it is at that time the member will be separated from the church according to the Lord's commands, statutes and judgments, never our own. The process of working with the tare is separation, and yet this is done with the utmost love and concern from the depths of our hearts for we love one another.

If we leave the open sinner uncared for and are left to do as they will; they will be an influence for the enemy and will plant their false seeds of truth. And if error is repeated before our eyes, we may become blind to what truth is and perhaps even evolve into doing error ourselves. Now if self-blindness should happen, we should understand that we may lose our lives as we will no longer see the straight and narrow path. But our God is so loving and devoted as He continues to hasten and chasten after His children so let us be prayerful and continue to move forward to His will than ours.

"I counsel thee to buy of me gold tried in the fire, that thou mayest be rich; and white raiment, that thou mayest be clothed, and that the shame of thy nakedness do not appear; and anoint thine eyes with eyesalve, that thou mayest see. As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent. Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me. To him that overcometh will I grant to sit with me in my throne, even as I also overcame, and am set down with my Father in his throne. He that hath an ear, let him hear what the Spirit saith unto the churches. " Revelation 3:18-22.


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Reflections of our Lord's  beauty and grace within.

What does sanctified spouse mean?

"For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy." 1 Corinthians 7:14.

First the word sanctified means for us to be washed and cleaned inside from sin and sining by God. This work of sanctification comes through prayer and study of His word by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Now how does the spouse become sanctified who does not love the Lord? Lets discuss this:

The unbelieving spouse is witnessing the believing spouses example. They are literally witnessing a believing spouse who is changing from character to character to reflect the image Christ Jesus' character. So the unbelieving spouse little by little enjoys the climate of God's joy and peace that the believing spouse has brought into the home.

The influence of the believing spouse touches the life of the unbelieving spouse even so much as to change. What a wonderful promise! This is the power of Christ's nature as it subdue's the hardest of hearts which are willing to be humbled.

I can testify that the believing spouse does change the home in many ways. And as progressed in my life walk with God, I found that many changes within me had to take place. The process for the promise of a sanctified spouse may be short or long. Much depends on our spiritual growth, as growth reflects more perfectly day by day, step by step the very nature of Christ Jesus when we belong to Him.

So be of good cheer, love the Lord with all your heart and with all your soul, pray, pray, pray and hold, hold, hold onto faith for our God says that with Him nothing is impossible!

"...The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much." James 5:16.


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One marriage, one unbliever

Counsel To The Wife of an Unbelieving Husband


We receive many letters soliciting advice. One mother says her husband is an unbeliever. She has children but they are taught by the father to disrespect the mother. She is deeply burdened for her children. She does not know what course she can pursue. She then expresses her anxiety to do something in the cause of God, and inquires whether I think she had a duty to leave her family if she is convinced she can do no good to them.

I would answer, my sister, I cannot see how you could be clear before the Lord and leave your husband and your children. I cannot think you would feel that you could do this yourself. The trials you may have may be of a very trying character. You may be often pained to the heart because disrespect is shown you; but I am sure that it must be your duty to care for your own children. This is your field where you have your appointed work. It may be rocky and discouraging soil to work, but you have a Companion in all your efforts to do your duty unflinchingly, conscientiously, notwithstanding all the discouraging circumstances. Jesus is your helper. Jesus came into our world to save lost and perishing souls and you are to consider that in this work you are a laborer together with God. {3MR 369.2

Do not shirk your responsibilities. Be a daily home missionary. Not only teach your children from their babyhood, but train them. Keep a steady, firm hold upon your children. You must not only tell them what to do but to the very best of your ability make their surroundings favorable and sow your precious seed in the love and spirit of Jesus. Because Satan uses the father of your children to counteract your work, do not be discouraged; do not give up the conflict. Do as you wish them to do. Treat your husband with kindness at all times and on all occasions, and bind your children to your heart with the cords of love. This is your work; this is the burden you have to bear. Talk not your home trials to anyone but Jesus; pour them into His ear.

Jesus "came unto His own, and His own received Him not. But as many as received Him, to them gave He power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on His name: which were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God" (John 1:11-13).

Grace is not inherited. A very bad father may have a godly son; a Christian father a profligate son. Let mothers take up the burdens made doubly heavy for them by the course of the head of the household. This makes your work plain, to let your light shine in the household where Satan is at work to secure your children to himself. Shall he have them? Let the missionary spirit rise to the emergency and say, No, no; my children, although they have a godless father, are the purchase of the blood of Christ. I am their mother. I will seek the Lord in faith, in humility, that He will not only save my children but their father, to repentance. Talk not and plead not for the sympathy of your husband and your children, but simply live the life of Christ. In words, in spirit, in character, in meekness, in patience and forbearance, in cheerfulness, be a signpost pointing out the way, the path that leads heavenward.

Be a witness for Christ. Exemplify the strength of the Christian's hope, which is cast into that within the vail. Reveal that the anchor holds you under all circumstances. Let your home be made pleasant and cheerful. Jesus--you must rely on Jesus every moment. Draw your strength from Jesus. He will give you that which you ask in sincerity. If you seek Him with your whole heart He will be found of you.

God does not call mothers away from home missionary work which will leave their children under the control of influences that are demoralizing and ruinous to the soul. Are not her children in need of missionary labor? Are not her children worth earnest and prayerful effort? Shall she neglect home missionary work for a larger field? Let her try her skill in her own home--take up her appointed, God-given work. If she has utterly failed, it is because she has not had faith or may not have presented the truth and lived the truth as it is in Jesus. Let her, after years of apparent failure, try again other methods, seeking counsel of God. Present His promises on your knees before Him. "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering" (James 1:5).

Have you felt your lot was hard, and complained and murmured? Then as you received no help in this line, beg in another course of action. Speak kindly, be cheerful. Because you have Jesus as your helper, break forth in songs of praise. When tempted, when reviled, revile not again; and labor with your children while there is one out of Christ. Sow the seed, the living seed, deep into the soil of the heart. Let your words be wisely chosen. Consider yourself as God's appointed missionary, to be the light of your home.

Again I say, It is not like the works of God to call the mother away from her husband and from her children to engage in what she considers higher work. Take right hold of the duties lying directly in your path.

I am pained when I receive letters from mothers who have children inquiring, Shall I leave my children to do missionary work? In the fear and love of God, I say, become a home missionary. Educate yourself in Bible ways and means that you may be a successful worker in your own home, for you see they need to be saved, for they are sinners. Do not forsake your post of duty because of the unpleasantness of it. There are many living martyrs today who suffer in silence, who trust in God when they are abused with the tongue and who are tantalized, who are hurt and wounded by coarse, harsh denunciations, whose lot seems to be to live and to suffer, receiving comfort only from Jesus, who is the source of their strength. Such souls are missionaries. They are Christ's noble ones, and their names are written in the Lamb's book of life.

Remember, Jesus knows it all--every sorrow, every grief--He will not leave you to sink, for His arms are beneath you. You may be an enlightenment to a whole neighborhood if you are indeed patient, kind, forbearing. In this, my sister, consider your questions answered.--Ms 9, 1868, pp. 1-4. (Counsel to wife of an unbelieving husband, circa 1868.)

Released August 1, 1967.
Manuscript Releases Volume 3, pages 369:1-372:2.



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